The Ettelbrick article and the same
sex marriage FAQs offered differing opinions on the issue of same sex
marriages. The FAQs were mostly
written in the typical same sex rhetoric that crops up in the news or media,
and was not very new to me. While
reading through it, it is easy to understand why those who have same sex
partners are upset about the lack of equality surrounding marriage. There are far more rights not afforded
to those in same sex partnerships than those who live in the typical
heterosexual marriage. Regarding
the differences between a civil union and a marriage, the article was very
clear that there really is no way that they are comparable. The FAQs point to more than 1000
federal benefits and protections offered to those in a legal marriage that
makes it outstandingly obvious that a civil union is not enough. However, I was very surprised by
Ettelbrick’s article, although I can understand her point. She argues that even if the laws
regarding same sex marriage were changed overnight, it wouldn’t drastically
help out those who are pursuing equal rights. Her thought is that if gay and lesbian partners are granted
legal marriage, then they will lose momentum and their fight for rights will
have been in vain. Ettelbrick is
vehemently against assimilation into the culture of those in heterosexual
partnerships. She believes there
is a “gay identity and culture” that would be violated and destroyed upon the
change allowing same sex marriage (Ettelbrick, 306).
While
I understand where Ettelbrick is coming from, I don’t think that her argument
is right. She recognizes that
there are certain gains that would come from the recognition of same sex
marriages, but she doesn’t think that they are worth the change due to the
detriment it will do to the same sex movement. In my opinion, the change to allowing same sex marriage
would act as a stepping stone to greater rights, not the end of the movement,
as she claims. Ettelbrick also
believes that the system needs to change, to not make marriage so powerful in
the wording of laws, the granting of insurance, or any other distinction based
on legal partnerships. In her
mind, the real issue is that marriage has too much influence on society. She believes that acceptance of same
sex couples will never be complete until they can change society so that the
traditional sense of marriage is no longer. I disagree with Ettelbrick on this point. I think it is important to have
marriage be a powerful institution in our country. It provides stability, which is extremely beneficial to the
raising of children, while also helping preserve the familial unit, which I
view as important. I think she
should consider the ability for same sex marriages to occur as a first step on
a path to more rights, rather than a pothole on that same path. While I don’t know for sure, I would
have to think that she must be in the minority with her viewpoint.
I agree with Stuart that Ettelbrick fails to see some of values same sex marriages could offer to couples. However, I do believe that there are certain institutional structures around marriage that will always be patriarchal, thus undermining the power of same sex marriages. I believe that this is why Ettelbrick sees marriage as an inherent problem to liberation and possibly the reason we cannot solely look to marriage to answer problems surrounding gay and lesbian communities. Ettelbrick is a bit extreme when it comes to discussing the values of marriage, but she does make a good argument as to why we need to think more broadly about how our society can move forward towards a path of liberation.
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