In “Since When is Marriage a Path to Liberation”, Paula
Ettelbrick discusses the institution of marriage in relationship to the gay and
lesbian community. As a t-shirt
that Ettelbrick once read, “marriage is a great institution, if you like living
in institutions,” (Ettelbrick 305).
According to Ettelbrick, marriage is a form of self-affirmation in which
one becomes a powerful insider, casting every other unmarried individual as a
weak outsider. It is a state
regulated two-tier patriarchal system that makes gay and lesbian couples
unimportant and invisible. In
turn, it relegates them to a lower status on the social ladder while those who
are married move up the social ladder.
Despite popular belief, however, Ettelbrick notes that giving gays and
lesbians the right to marry does not solve the problem of justice. For justice to be achieved, the gay and
lesbian community must be accepted in a society that challenges the current
power imbalances. By just
associating marriage with rights, gays and lesbians who choose not to marry are
at risk of being even more ostracized than before. Ettelbrick believes that the domestic partnership movement
is important because it affirms non-marital relationships and offers some,
although not many, protections.
What’s interesting about Ettelbrick’s piece is that she is
writing in 1989. Twenty-three
years later, we are dealing with these same issues and many of us are convinced
that marriage is in fact the answer. The campaigns for same-sex marriage obviously have a lot
of worth in our society, but Ettelbrick’s piece makes me wonder whether or not
justice would be achieved if every state made it legal. There would most likely still be the
constraints that Ettelbrick discusses and patriarchal order would most likely
prevail. It is hard to imagine our
society defined by such a rigid power structure being completely altered by
extending the institution of marriage to all couples. In a way, it seems like an attempt to curb liberation
movements and an achievement to fall back on when those movements claim there
hasn’t been much progress for gay and lesbian communities. Ettelbrick is right that we can be
deluded by the idea of marriage and that broader goals for liberation must be
made if we want to see proactive change.
The “Same Sex Marriage FAQ”, which can be found on the Human
Rights Campaign website, answers questions regarding the differences between
same sex marriage and civil unions.
According to the FAQ, same sex couples want to marry for a variety of
reasons: love, safety nets for children, and the protections given to
heterosexual marriages. Some of
these protections deal with taxes, hospital visitation rights, health
insurance, social security benefits, immigration rights, and pensions, among
many others. While civil unions
offer some protections, they are generally “second class” and not recognized
across state borders. If you were
to be given civil unions in Vermont, for example, you may not be protected in
other states or by the federal government. Furthermore, religious institutions are not required to
recognize these civil unions or perform any kind of ceremony. What the FAQ makes apparent is that
civil unions are both separate and unequal, and are not held at the same
standard as marriages.
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